tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4703267061193954122024-03-19T02:41:47.079-07:00PossibilityPagesAfter completing my book, I decided to create a forum where ideas and experiences in the area of personal growth could be generated and shared, with the participation of all, regardless of whether they have read my book or not. While nudging the conversation along by posting topical articles,it is my hope that the discussion will be owned and driven by all.PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-73640070416050688492014-06-06T14:16:00.000-07:002014-06-06T14:16:02.665-07:00IF I WERE 22<br />
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>I came across this thoughtful article by Mavis Mazhura, who is a Transformational Speaker, Facilitator and Coach. Mavis graciously accepted my invitation for her to be a guest on my blog when I told her that my friends would find her insights helpful. I urge you to read this great, down-to-earth article and leave your comments below. Here is Mavis:</b></span></div>
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<strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.230469); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(77, 128, 180, 0.230469); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875); text-align: center;">Isn't it always interesting when you look back in hindsight and you say to yourself I wish I had a foresight back then I would have done things differently! There are many things I would have done differently but I will talk about 4 things.</span></strong></div>
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<strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. Embrace my Story</strong></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">‘</strong><em style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">’Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”</em><em style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">-</em><em style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">C.G. Jung</em></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">The body remembers everything that has happened to it and our emotions help us to store up information in our unconscious mind. The unconscious mind weaves a story of our life in our memory. Most people are minors of their story because they minimize or belittle themselves by denying the story that shaped who they are. I realize now that it is difficult to be authentic and confident without accepting your story. Most of our childhood experiences are lying in the sub-conscious mind and they influence our adult behaviour from under the radar. I was stuck in mass consciousness as a young adult, wanting to fit in and trying to escape my story, but I know now that my breakthrough lay in embracing that story and become a hero of it.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. </strong><strong style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Find the Sanctuary Within</strong></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">‘</strong><em style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">’Men, like nails, lose their usefulness when they lose directionand begin to bend’’. ~Walter Savage Landor </em><strong style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></em></strong></span></h4>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Discovering your purpose connects you with the sanctuary within and direction that cannot be easily swayed by external forces. When you have discovered your purpose, it is not easy to be sidetracked or distracted, if it does happen it is also easy to go back to it. When you are not fulfilled due to not living out your purpose, it is easy to feel frustrated and/or frustrate others in the process, because you are unwell inside your self, you are not being authentic. When frustrated by not being authentic to self or your God given purpose, some people then seek sedatives or anesthetics to temporarily soothe themselves from feeling unwell. They lose focus towards their usefulness and begin to bend, engaging in self-sabotaging behaviours like alcoholism, womanising, making others responsible for their happiness, complaining, seductress or simply being idol. These behaviours also perpetuate a feeling of false fulfillment and unhappiness hurting self and others. If you do not pursue something worthwhile, you will pursue something worthless. People pursue different things in search of happiness. Some pursue money, some pursue marriage and some pursue children. Only to discover that none of the things they pursed give them that sense of peace and this is because they have not pursued their true mission. I believe when you pursue your purpose the others desires will ultimately be added on and even if they are not it would not be an issue for you. When you limit what you are capable of or who you truly are, that drains energy out of your being. I sidetracked a little by not pursuing my purpose earlier. Most successful people are people who pursued their purpose early in life.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">People are the biggest resource and, whether we are aware of it or not, we are influenced by the people we surround ourselves with, whether it is through music or books, movies or the food we eat. Your results are affected either positively or negatively by what you surround yourselves with. You will use some of the phrases they use, behave like them sometimes, your tastes also influenced by them. If you do not have a plan, you will just be going with the crowd, or if you have a plan and you surround yourself with people or things not flowing in the same direction as you, you may experience friction and internal conflict on whether to go or to stay where they are. It might also take you longer to get your results because no one holds you accountable, you may read a book or listen to an audio tape, but those things will not hold you accountable; other people will hold you accountable and push you to achieve your maximum potential.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I ask people in our EQ course, who is your role model? Some often respond ‘myself’ or, ‘I have no role model’ or,’ I do not want to be disappointed when those people behave in a way contrary to my expectations’. This shows how some people are unaware that someone is influencing them involuntarily. We learn through modeling aware or unaware. Intentional modeling gives you an opportunity to choose intentionally and purposefully someone with the results you want and identify their patterns of success and emulate them. This helps to generate positive emotions of curiosity, interest and optimism, learning both from their successes and failures and how they responded to challenging situations. Remember, role models do not have to be perfect; they are human like you and me, so choose what you want to focus on to your own benefit. Check the your relationships, who has the relationship with money that you would also want to create, who has a marriage that you would want to create, who has wisdom that you would to create, who has physical fitness that you would want to create? What are their patterns? Model the patterns and you do not have to start from scratch. I wish I had chosen my models at 22.</span></div>
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Some situations become stressful because noone has taken responsibility for them. Imagine yourself as a passenger in a car that is approaching a herd of elephants, and the driver is screaming in alarm and ignoring the brakes. Dangerously unnecessary stress will build up inside that car!<br />
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When a bill you can't clear arrives on your doorstep, concentrate your energies on reducing the danger of such unpleasant consequences as your water or power being turned off. Refuse to devote any of that energy to an emotion called panic by taking positive action, such as visiting the municipal utility office and negotiating an arrangement to pay off the excess amount in manageable instalments. If you feel that the amount of the bill does not reflect your actual usage, query the bill first; quite possibly, the meter reader did not come to your home this month, and an inflated estimate was used. Whatever the case may be, creditors are generally more interested in securing payment than in "fixing" you.<br />
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Let's take another situation. School begins next week, and you do not have enough money to cover the fees. Going down with stress won't help your child, and your child needs you to take full charge of the situation. Think creatively within the law. You could visit the principal today and offer an instalment plan. If you have a bank account and the bank manager has no reason to hate you, you could go talk to her. Banks are in the business of selling money. If other doors are closed, isn't there something in the house that you can sell this week and perhaps replace later on? This list of possibilities is not a comprehensive one; each one of us has emergency exits they can use in the face of danger. The secret is to remain calm and avoid debilitating panic.<br />
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When you deliberately choose to act as a problem solver, you become bigger than the problem. True, some situations are more difficult than others, but it is a better strategy to work harder at tackling them than to fall hard into depression and stress, which bring further, and often more serious, problems. Stay on top of things so things don't crush you.<br />
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In the next instalment we shall deal with relationship problems, which are arguably the dominant cause of stress in our world.<br />
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ARE YOU STRESSED OUT?<br />
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This post is about stress, so I shall break it up into segments and keep it short so you don't get stressed out reading it. I hope this first segment will help someone.<br />
Things that we may not have planned, both good and bad, happen to us, and around us. These may be events that affect our health, our relationships, our life pursuits or our careers. The shock and impact of some of them can leave us tense, paralysed or confused. We are confronted with a demand to deal with situations we did not expect, situations about which we may not be able to do anything at all. Your husband or wife strays. A child is arrested. The utility bill is too big for your paycheck this month. The baby you never planned is on its way. What to do?<br />
Sometimes the key is to do nothing. Most stress is caused by our failure to recognise the difference between the fact that something has happened and the question whether it is our duty to take any action in response to it. This failure often puts pressure on us to "do something", even in situations where it is not in our power to act. When we feel responsible but can't act, we react emotionally, and this erodes our ability to cope. In such situations, slow down and concentrate on coping. Such moments may well be moments for faith in God, and for leaning on the shoulders of others. The reason we are counseled to "bear one another's burdens" is clear: when it's your own burden, it may be too close for you to bear without falling apart. Find a dependable confidante and pour it out.<br />
(In the next post, which should be up in a day or so, we shall deal with stressful situations caused by things we can do something about, e.g. the utility bill).<br />
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<br />PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-20598886570874720382013-03-31T01:02:00.000-07:002013-03-31T01:02:38.533-07:00CALLING ALL UPSTARTS<br />
While driving through a portion of rural India this morning, I was struck by the spectacle of a two-storied mansion that dwarfed the humble shacks and huts that surrounded it. "How ridiculous!" was the first thought that crossed my mind.<br />
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Upon reflection, though, I came to the realisation that my reaction was far from being an original one; be it in the case of Chaminuka, Gandhi, Einstein or the Wright Brothers, those who observed what these epoch-makers were doing or saying thought or said my words, almost exactly. Revolutions, in any sphere of life, are pioneered by upstarts and (seeming) lunatics. My repentant retake was vindicated a kilometre or two later, when I noticed that another villager had erected a tiny version of the mansion I had seen and criticized earlier.<br />
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It's afternoon now as I write, and I feel wiser about life. When I go back to my own country, I think I shall find something unusual and good to do that others might find worth imitating. My neighbours may well start competing with me, and could come up with better projects that will enhance the value of my surroundings. That will not hurt me.<br />
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What do you think? Could our workplaces, our homes, our world, become better environments for us if we did some positive, game-changing things? Do please share your thoughts in the comments box on this page.<br />
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PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-7747292067566866082012-09-26T03:42:00.000-07:002012-09-26T03:42:54.562-07:00I ACED IT AND WAS THE LAST TO KNOW!The odds of hitting a hole-in-one in golf, according to an authoritative source, are one in 150 000. This feat is so rare, in fact, that insurance companies offer hole-in-one cover to professional golfers in the confidence that the majority of takers are unlikely to ever draw against the insurance policy. Golfers who hope for this miracle need insurance cover because tradition demands that the player who achieves the feat throws a party for all the members of his club. Guess what-yesterday I beat the odds and achieved a hole-in-one on a longish par 3 at Delhi Golf Club, a championship course in the Indian capital. Yes, I do have a headache now because I am not insured against this sort of calamity, and all my golfing friends are clamouring for a party. I did, however, walk away with something good, other than the trophy and the citation (yes, that's me in the picture with the trophy and the grin)- a valuable lesson about how inexpensive optimism is.<br />
<img src="webkit-fake-url://C9CE9A3A-2E54-4AD1-A9FC-4C36CE793F2F/imagejpeg" />Picture this: as we walked towards the green, none of us in the four-ball was aware of what had just happened there. When we got to the green and my ball was not in sight, I searched everywhere, including in the bramble thicket that flanked the green. In the best traditions of amateur golf, my playing partners joined me in the search, which went on for several minutes. All hope lost, I was preparing to chip a penalty ball from the edge of the thicket when a caddie exclaimed "hole-in-one!" as he peered excitedly into the cup at the centre of the green. We all converged on the green and confirmed that I had just joined one of the most exclusive clubs in the world, and yet we had spent so many anxious minutes looking for bad news!<br />
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I have to learn-as perhaps you too do-to expect good things to happen as I pursue my dreams in life. At the very least we must drop the habit of assuming worst-case scenarios, as such negativity makes us miss the good news that seeming bad news so often carries with it. Perhaps, as it were, the ball we hit is sitting in the cup, waiting to make us famous, while we are courting scratches and insect stings in the bramble bush all the while.<br />
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PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-6170984195440866662012-07-17T03:15:00.002-07:002012-07-17T03:15:22.802-07:00IT'S HOW YOU SELL YOURSELF THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCEA few days ago I had a conversation with a truly remarkable man. I had just finished the task of sticking a vehicle license disc on my windshield when I became aware that someone was standing a few feet away from me and my open car door. "Pardon me", he said. "I didn't mean to startle you. My name is Daniel. I couldn't help admiring your car, enthusiast that I am. The power of the 3.2 liter engine under that hood is phenomenal." My interest was engaged immediately, and I introduced myself in turn. A highly animated discussion about cars ensued, and several minutes flew by.<br />
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When at the end of our conversation I parted with a ten-dollar note, the gesture was made to help out a friend who was temporarily down on his luck, and not as a matter of alms extended to a beggar. Strictly speaking, the latter label would not have been misplaced; I understood from our talk that Daniel used to be a reasonably well-off racing car owner who had been reduced to penury by the vagaries of the currency market. Now meals were coming his way courtesy of the kindness of strangers he met on the street. From my encounter with him, though, the identity that lingers in the mind is that of Daniel the knowledgeable car enthusiast, thanks to the effect of his references to torque, thrust and the like. Curiously, I feel an occasional pang of guilt that I couldn't give him more than the ten dollars I was able to spare, because psychologically he left the sense that he "deserved" more, not because he demanded it, but because the status he projected seemed to qualify him for something more than charity!<br />
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The lesson that Daniel taught me is worth sharing. Whether it be in meetings with bank managers to seek loan assistance for our business, in boardrooms where we are pitching our services to corporate executives, or in a first encounter with congregants who are considering offering us a pastorate, the attributes we choose to project our identity can make or break our prospects. Are you a hapless fellow who got nasty surprises when he tried his hand at business and now needs to be bailed out, or are you the visionary who will raise the bank's profile when it is known that the bank has associated itself with your success? Are you a chancer who is trying her luck with a fly-by-night advertising idea or are you the ad wizard the marketing managers have been waiting for all their lives? You will definitely be treated like the persona you choose to project in any context in which you hope to succeed in life.<br />
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Daniel helped me sell a few of my books. Fresh from my conversation with him, I went to drop off some clothes at a laundromat, where I chatted up the proprietor. I found myself sharing things I know about business, drawing from my experiences and the tips I present in the book I wrote. In the end, I couldn't resist mentioning my book, and what a pleasant surprise it was when the proprietor asked for a copy! During a chance meeting with a close relative, I offered advice on her transportation and real estate businesses, if truth be told not as a sales pitch for the book, but when we were saying goodbye she insisted on buying a copy. I have a couple more such stories to tell, but let these two suffice to illustrate the point that benefits accrue when we put our best and most relevant foot forward.<br />
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Do you have thoughts on this, or similar experiences you wish to share? Do please feel free to share them by clicking on "comments."<br />PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-21507735088696334302012-05-15T10:05:00.001-07:002012-05-15T10:05:23.460-07:00HOW TO STILL HAVE MONEY IN YOUR POCKET THE DAY BEFORE PAYDAY<br />
Let's face it: most of us live from hand to mouth, and by the mid-point of our remuneration cycle, that hand is stretched out to friends and passers-by, sometimes elegantly, sometimes not. (Isn't it merciful that borrowing from strangers is so elegantly disguised by the formalities of the banking system)? We know we need to break this cycle. The bewildering question is how, and it is in this direction that I want to offer some pointers that are as practical as they are silly-simple.<br />
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The three keys I prescribe, because any and all of us can use them, are: Prioritize, Procrastinate and Paralyze. Let's take the three tricks one by one.<br />
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1. PRIORITISE<br />
A day or two before you get your paycheck, sit down (literally) and draw up a list of items on which your life depends, and don't be frivolous about this. Be harsh, and exclude all luxuries. Each one of us lives in a specific context, so the point here is not to give a standard list, but I want to suggest three guidelines for your priority list. The first guideline is that the first allocation on your priority list must be to the overarching item that gives meaning to your life. When your list begins with funding the core value of your life, you are teaching your mind to be rationally consistent with your life goals. After all, the reason why that dollar fails to stretch is that nothing is disciplining it. Next, list survival items in the order of each item's lethality. To be a little melodramatic the better to illustrate the principle, it would be foolish to delay the ambulance that must rush you for the reversal of your cardiac arrest because you want first to pay the landlord his rent. Much as you might detest him, please don't force him to evict a corpse! Fund each item in strict order of real priority, and give each item no more than it requires. Do not "round off" anything, as this promotes a cavalier attitude to accounting, and many of us are in trouble because we are not accounting for every penny. Your survival list must include "savings account", even if only ten dollars goes there at first. It must also include "contingency", which will cover unpleasant surprises. Only after the must-have list is funded can you move to the "Perhaps" and "It Would Be Nice" lists, which you must deprive of-say-twenty dollars before you make allocations to them. Put the twenty dollars in your pocket.<br />
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2. PROCRASTINATE.<br />
Most of the spending items we feel an urgency to fund are not items on which our life depends. We can function without them, at least until tomorrow, and that timing goes for tomorrow too. Sit down again if you stood up in the first place, and make a list of the items you will defer. Put them in a queue, with the hungriest of them bringing up the rear. That new, frog green mascara can wait, and wait....On a shopping Saturday, find an activity, perhaps helping a charity or fishing, that puts a distance between you and the shops. Sometimes it is even more constructive to spend the day sleeping. Dreaming about non-essentials is less expensive than acquiring them! Service, fun and rest cost less. A mildly tolerable result of procrastinating on the purchase of these items will be that you will only fund them at a stage in your remuneration cycle where you are sure such purchases will not lead to starvation. The most desirable outcome will be that the longer you ignore them, the less sense it makes to fund these items, and you can put a little more in the savings account.<br />
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3. PARALYSE.<br />
Remember the twenty that I asked you to put in your pocket? It's not so good if you do, because I want you to forget it. It's not too late, though. A silly truth that I have discovered in my own experience is that I can't pay for that ice cream cone on a whim if the cash is in the wrong jacket in the closet at home. I did this once or twice by mistake before I realised that doing it on purpose can be so helpful. Even if the ATM card is on you, if you decide to walk all the way to the machine, you most likely will find time to ask your spending conscience why it's letting you make such a fuss over an item that will cause you physical and financial pain in the dentist's rooms. Talking about cards, I am assuming you returned those credit cards to the issuing bank and rescheduled the repayment of any debts you incurred so you could stop spending money you have not earned, and might not earn!<br />
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Follow this silly-simple prescription and see if you do not still have a bit of money in your pocket-preferably in the wrong jacket-the day before pay day.<br />
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Do you have other tips to add to this, or even to replace these? Please share them by clicking the comment link, because in this area we all can use all the help we can find. Feel free to also just comment on my suggestions, even if you don't wish to add any new ones.<br />PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-35975005901003321492011-10-30T01:23:00.000-07:002011-10-30T01:23:58.053-07:00EMBARRASS YOURSELF FOR YOUR OWN GOODMany businesses fail, bringing embarrassment and ruin to their owners. A large proportion collapse on account of the careless handling of money. If only more of us would learn to embarrass ourselves now to avoid more painful embarrassment later! <a href="http://youtu.be/3-jT7Pe26V4">WATCH!</a>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-31335305790412254872011-10-30T01:14:00.000-07:002011-10-30T01:14:56.155-07:00SET FIRE TO YOUR COUCHRecent upheavals in the global economy have sounded the clear warning that individual and family economies can collapse suddenly. Rather than tremble helplessly at the prospect, we can convert the threat into an opportunity by taking advantage of the many opportunities that we have to acquire new skills that will help us should lean times come our way. <a href="http://youtu.be/iNksDckVrIM">WATCH!</a>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-66135731823872142052011-10-14T11:18:00.000-07:002011-10-14T11:18:14.894-07:00LESSONS FROM MY SISTER EDNA PART 2<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/yieTY7mr5ek?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div>I thought it might be more interesting to put this in a form you can watchPossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-44773192005186249322011-08-13T15:54:00.000-07:002011-08-13T15:54:37.259-07:00LESSONS FROM MY SISTER EDNA<br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When my sister Edna was born, I remember that the entire family was excited. Her most obvious mark of uniqueness was that she was the first and only girl in a family dominated by boys, but as time went on, we all realised that her uniqueness did not stop at gender. For one thing, she was gifted with a mighty pair of lungs, which, as an infant, she employed to great advantage. When she was disappointed in any way, you did everything you could to stop her crying; the way we all got destabilized and frantic, you would think world peace was at stake!I think that Edna decided from that early stage to live her life as an accomplisher and an influencer of people. I intend to do three posts on aspects of my sister’s personality that I have found to be worth emulating, and that I believe represent important traits of an effective person. In this post, I shall focus on Edna’s incredible drive.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I was surprised when, at the age of nineteen, Edna announced that she was joining the Police, and was being assigned an entry-level job at the General Headquarters. Naturally, I was happy that she had found employment at that early age, but I was at the same time a little apprehensive about her prospects in a career then largely dominated by males. Elder brothers tend to be protective, sometimes overly so. I was therefore genuinely attentive whenever she talked about what was happening at work. I wasn’t sure, though, if I was hearing right when she briefed me about the rapid progress she was making as a rookie, but it was hard to miss the enthusiasm with which she described details of her training and other aspects of her life in the Police. Edna’s enthusiasm was simply infectious, and I could tell that she was throwing herself into her chosen career without reserve.While kind people have cited us as a family of achievers, I honestly believe that our sister takes pole position where absolute commitment to a chosen course of action is involved. The manner in which she seeks all kinds of skill and knowledge that relates to the pursuit she is engaged in makes the point I try to make in my book on the necessity of empowering oneself with relevant knowledge much more convincingly than my prose does.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In just a few months, Edna was regraded favourably in her job, and there was talk of her pursuing an accelerated and very promising career path. What impressed me was her determination to wring every opportunity for whatever sap it contained, a procedure that entailed taking every training course that dared present itself in her path. She left the organisation she worked with with no option other than to keep upgrading and promoting her. One of the courses she pursued with fervor was secretarial training, and I remember being briefed in detail from the thirty words-per-minute stage, through eighty to one hundred and twenty. As a result of her commitment to higher attainment, Edna quickly became a force to reckon with, and was assigned to high offices. When she announced her intention to move on, Police General Headquarters, I am sure, felt greatly deprived.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Edna’s next stop was the Headquarters of a large telecommunications concern, where, once again, her enthusiasm and drive quickly propelled her to prominence. Like all successful people, she continued to define herself as a thirsty learner, allowing herself considerable lateral vision, which exposed her to several life opportunities. Because I am her brother, I got to meet many people whose resumés were remarkable, and some of them have remained family friends. It fascinated me that my little sister was being cited as a mentor and opinion leader by so many people, some of whom had titles that ranked higher than her own. What an influencer! People who have drive are constantly seeking opportunities that test and exercise that drive, and in that quest, they touch many lives.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A combination of drive, peripheral vision and lateral thinking created an achievement that I marvel at even today. At a time when the real estate market was severely constricted, Edna spotted an opportunity that I must confess I was at first skeptical about. This opportunity involved a rather complex investment scheme that promised high and rapid returns. People who possess Edna’s kind of drive and determination tend to be good at seeing gains where lesser mortals see only risk. Once she committed herself to the scheme, my sister concentrated a phenomenal focus on making it work. Indeed, as I write, it strikes me that Edna is a true illustration of the admonition I put in the chapter of my book where I discuss management: “when you pay money, you had better pay attention.” The outcome of this concentration and unrelenting drive was a very impressive suburban home.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In the next instalment, I intend to spill more beans about my remarkable sister in the hope that readers will profit from this example of how drive, commitment, persistence and application never fail to produce tangible, even bankable, results.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Do please put your valued comment in the comments box that appears when you click on “comments”, and don’t forget to subscribe to this blog to receive notifications of interesting posts that could help you accomplish your life goals.<o:p></o:p></span></div>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-33042977742847373602011-08-07T16:55:00.000-07:002011-08-07T17:00:42.048-07:00WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MAKE IT REAL?<div class="MsoNormal" style="tab-stops: 301.5pt; text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 19px; line-height: 21px;">This morning I finally made time and went to see the project that my brother has been pestering me to go and see. I am still in shock as I write. Here is what he did, in his own words, sort of, as I am paraphrasing a much longer account:</span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-align: justify; text-indent: -18.0pt;"><br />
<ul><li><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">·<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">I acquired a moderately sized piece of land after saving for five years. My goal was to rear and sell livestock.</span></li>
<li><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">·<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">I had very little money left over from the land purchase, but I had a plan. The plan was to multiply the money I had left by selling livestock products acquired from other people. My first purchase was milk from a farm, which yielded a decent profit when I sold it fresh to city dwellers. By staying in the zone and varying the nature and scale of my farm purchases and resales, I multiplied my initial seed money quite a bit.</span></li>
<li><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-family: Symbol; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">·<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">It took me three months to build up enough reserves to purchase two animals, a male and a female. This is two years later, and as you can see, I am now stretching the capacity of this piece of land. Fortunately, my output is in great demand.</span></li>
</ul></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-add-space: auto; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">I know it to be true that <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">if you approach your project with premeditated method and persistence, it is hard to fail to accomplish your goal</b>; I even highlited this in my book. I still must confess I was astonished by the dramatic manner in which the application of the principle produced results for my brother, who now gets orders from far and wide. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-add-space: auto; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-add-space: auto; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">I thank my brother for reconfirming me in my conviction that one does not have to possess a lot of resources to make a success of their project, whatever it might be. What one needs is (a)<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> a wise choice of project, </b>(b) <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">the targeted deployment of what resources one has at one’s disposal</b> and (c) <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">perseverence in pursuing strategies that lead to the accomplishment of the desired goal.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-add-space: auto; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-add-space: auto; text-align: justify;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-ZW" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">I hope you can take a minute to reflect on your own goals and to list the concrete steps you are taking toward the accomplishment of those goals. If you do not have such a premeditated list, you may be surprised by the implementation power that starting such a list of positive actions will release. Feel free to leave your thoughts on the subject in the comment box. Nothing would delight me more than your decision to subscribe to my blog and to continue to be an active contributor to this forum for the exchange of life-changing ideas. <o:p></o:p></span></b></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-26575432526897654212011-07-27T12:57:00.000-07:002011-07-27T12:57:56.903-07:00DON'T TAKE "NO" FOR AN ANSWER<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">I was asked recently to contribute a guest post to a blog that serves as a resource for job seekers. I know that the advice I give in that guest post will be found useful by at least some who follow my blog. Do please have a look at the article <a href="http://nejs.org/2011/07/27/staying-motivated-you-can-fire-that-job/">here</a>, and leave your comments, which will be most useful as feedback that could very well help shape future posts.<br />
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Jonathan</div>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-21647425604280117762011-03-26T10:21:00.000-07:002011-03-26T12:13:56.765-07:00TOO BUSY TO WORK<div align="justify">How come people go to work everyday and come back home exhausted, but having accomplished little, if anything at all? These people may be in public service, in corporate offices, in voluntary organisations, and may even be in business for themselves, but the same disproportionate relationship between effort and result seems to prevail regardless of the career choices people make. In answering this puzzling question, it is useful to ask yet another question: what do these people do in their workplaces that exhausts them so?<br /><br />Let me suggest a few simple answers from what I have observed as an administrator:<br />1.<strong> People get exhausted from doing too much work</strong> that contributes nothing toward the accomplishment of real work goals and objectives. This wasted effort is often the result of not defining Key Result Areas in the first place. There is no point in tackling any task that presents itself unless that task relates directly to stated goals and objectives. Learning to <em>reject </em>tasks that have nothing to do with what you must accomplish is both a success principle and a survival skill.<br />2. <strong>People get exhausted from doing too little work</strong> that contributes to the accomplishment of real goals and objectives. Too much time and effort are expended on tasks that delay the accomplishment of what really needs to be accomplished, and too little time and energy are left for the accomplishment of tasks that really matter. Psychologically, this produces stress, frustration, guilt and confusion, and may result in unnecessary hours of overtime during times when mind and body are in their least productive state. New stress, frustration, guilt and confusion are, in turn, generated as obligations to family are neglected, and activities that give balance to life are abandoned.<br />3. <strong>People get exhausted from working too hard</strong>, rather than working smart. What goes in and what comes out simply don't match, even if care is taken to ensure that the tasks undertaken are relevant to the desired outcomes. We all need to remember that we are operating in a knowledge economy where even the letters on the keyboards of our computers can be programmed to become "macros", so that a single key stroke accomplishes a full task. If we invest more time in getting to know what the available technology can do at our bidding, we will get more work done with less wear and tear on us. Another cause for working too hard is forgetting who else is with us in the work place. Sharing work among people who have come to work, a practice sometimes called <em>delegating</em>, is a smart way to ensure that meaningful tasks are actually accomplished, and we all go home with some energy and good cheer to share with family and friends.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"> copyright Jonathan Wutawunashe 2011<br /><br /><em>The writer is the author of the book <a href="http://www.cdfreedom.com/jonathanwutawunashe/#merchandise/fulfillyourthreats">FULFILL YOUR THREATS:Simple Principles to Help You Succeed in Life.</a></em> </div>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-64135094661464232102010-05-29T22:31:00.000-07:002010-05-29T23:50:50.040-07:00Simple Steps to Ensure Your Project Stands a ChanceWhy does it happen so often that projects that are initially driven by passion and conviction quickly fizzle out, never to be remembered except with regret? My observation and experiences have produced a check-list that has helped many people, including me, bring projects into the real world. Perhaps this check- list is exactly what the doctor ordered, as it were, for your project.<br /><br />1. <strong><em>What</em> is the project?</strong> You may be overwhelmed by the instinct that something momentous and important must be pursued, and that you are the one "chosen" to bring it about. That instinct, that sense of mission, is actually a good thing, because it represents the drive by which visions are propelled. What you need to do is to create clarity on what the vision that must be driven by the energizing instinct is. Get yourself a piece of paper and, even if you start in a random manner, make a list of projects that can be pursued. You can even be wildly ambitious, and start with "build a hotel". Keep listing until something resonates. When you hit that sweet spot, write a paragraph, and keep writing till you dry out. When you are done, write a sentence that captures the essential aspects of what you wrote in the paragraph. That sentence should tell you what the project is.<br /><br />2. <strong>Who needs it?</strong> Ask first, "do <em>I</em> need this project?" If you don't need the project and what it will do, abandon it. That is not the same as saying that you must pursue a project only for selfish reasons. The truth, however, is that for the project to succeed, you<em> must</em> need to do it. The need may be material, intellectual, emotional or spiritual, but that need is the flame that will keep the candle glowing. Next, ask "who else needs it?" At this point, it helps to become social. Ask a cross-section of your community whether a project like the one you are thinking of will be of use to them. If on the whole the answer is yes, then your project will be supported, enhancing its chances of sustainability and success.<br /><br />3<strong>. Can it be done</strong>? For some projects, the answer is easy because similar things have been done before. For others, some imagination and thought needs to be invested. When you ask yourself this question, you help yourself to focus on real-world issues, and at the same time to work up the problem-solving adrenaline that enables us to tackle challenges. The question "can it be done?" also triggers an enlightening enquiry about<em> method and capacity.</em><br /><em></em><br /><em>4.</em> <strong>What is needed to do it?</strong> Here you are marshalling your resources, and the outlines of an actual action plan are beginning to emerge. By listing the needs of the project-human expertise, materials, financing and time- you are beginning to visualize the project, and this is a healthy indication that something will actually come of it.<br /><br />Do please share your views and experiences on this topic by leaving your comment on this blog.<br /><br /><em>Jonathan Wutawunashe is a Project Execution Consultant and author of the motivational book <u><a href="http://www.cdfreedom.com/jonathanwutawunashe">Fulfill Your Threats</a></u>.</em>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-60437347769443908322010-03-13T20:24:00.000-08:002010-03-13T21:23:58.925-08:00Differentiating Yourself<div align="justify">There is a lot of literature out there about personal branding, but it's not always easy to know where and how to start. Personal branding does not mean that you have to become a fake. It does mean that you can highlight and leverage your attributes, talents and skills to help you stand out better and be more valuable to society and to yourself. Most, if not all of us, need a little help to activate our latent or dormant strengths and to bring them to the fore. All kinds of hangups can discourage us from "transforming ourselves to <em>be</em> ourselves". There is neither glory nor reward in spending our lives being less than we are equipped to be, so it is very much worth our while to find and use as many "how to" materials as we can lay our hands on. Most of these practical guidance materials are either free or cheap, and they can be found everywhere, including online. Worthwhile seminars, such as those organised by motivational speaker and author <a href="http://www.innov8motivation.com/">Milton Kamwendo</a>, cost next to nothing, but such seminars generate empowering ideas that can energize people in a surprising way. There are good links like <a href="http://www.idealady.com/">http://www.idealady.com/</a> that you can follow and find really good ideas to bring out the best in you. Other online resources include video presentations on popular sites like YouTube. Each video associates itself with similar ones, multiplying the resources at your disposal. Below is one of PossibilityPages' own videos. Notice how similar ones suggest themselves<strong>. Do please leave your thoughts on this topic</strong>. <a href="http://www.youtube.com/PossibilityPages">http://www.youtube.com/PossibilityPages</a></div>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-390325361164760402010-03-13T19:56:00.000-08:002010-03-13T20:24:10.737-08:00Managing TimeIn a chapter titled "Catch Your Day By The Throat" in the book <a href="http://www.cdfreedom.com/jonathanwutawunashe">FULFILL YOUR THREATS</a>, the author suggests that what you do in the first hour of your workday can make or break the rest of what you attempt to do for the rest of the day. He also urges us to develop the habit of accomplishing all our goals (context sensitive of course) during the first three hours of our workday. A spotlight is thrown on "the time value of money", with the interesting argument that most of us invest a lot of time inefficiently to reap a disproportionately small amount of money.<strong> Do you agree that a time audit would help you align your workload with what you earn from your work?</strong>PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-470326706119395412.post-12011090503130364622010-02-27T11:34:00.000-08:002010-02-27T12:14:49.552-08:00Achieving success in lifeMany of us are like people who have a closet full of nice suits, but are frozen in bewilderment and confusion as they stand in front of the open closet. The problem is that none of the jackets is on the same hanger as the trousers that came with it, and everything is all jumbled up. It's a big mess. Do you feel that if only you could align your strengths, talents and abilities in a logical sequence, you could achieve your life goals? Please share your thoughts, experiences and ideas on this topic, as your input will help stimulate productive discussion on this important subject. All you have to do is type away. Of course, as the discussion progresses, new, related topics will come up, and that's all good. [Jonathan Wutawunashe, author, <u><a href="http://www.cdfreedom.com/artists/jonathanwutawunashe/catalog/fulfillyourthreats">Fulfill Your Threats-Simple Principles to Help You Succeed in Life</a></u>]PossibilityPageshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16102978797545345707noreply@blogger.com3